When Your Life Plan Isn’t Working According to Plan…
What I have a seen is how we often stand in our own way by limiting ideas, beliefs and theories about life, the thoughts we get stuck on that keep us from the life and love we want.
I have kept myself from a very big dream because I didn’t fully own it and instead held onto excuses, or was stuck in unconscious beliefs of why it was not possible.
I know the power of dreaming, of believing in and creating my dreams.
In college, I knew I wanted to create healing in the world. I acutely felt the deep suffering of our human souls and the deep physical suffering of so many. I wanted to create more love, compassion, and healing in the world.
But I went to medical school and found my way through my own illness to a new way of understanding the wonder of the human body.
I learned from the inside out how we are connected to everything around us – the food we eat, our environment, how we grow and raise our food, the way we move, the rhythm and love in our lives. @markhymanmd Click To Tweet
In my struggle with chronic fatigue, I found a way out through the science of Functional Medicine. I have been honored to be part of transforming many lives and writing seven New York Times bestsellers designed to create more healing and love in the world. I dreamed that change into being. Without a doubt, I knew that I had a mission, a calling to share this radical new medical paradigm. I believed it and saw it through fearlessly.
But there are other dreams that have not worked out so well for me.
I have two beautiful children and the blessing of extraordinary friends and community. But in the area of love, I had beliefs and behaviors that kept me from having the love that I wanted.
I recognized that maybe it was “me” after two marriages and relationships that didn’t work out. How I choose, what I believed, and my behavior kept me from having the love that I wanted.
The truth was that I just didn’t believe in love- and that is why I never manifested it in my life.
I realized that my experience as a kid set me up not to trust or believe that true love was possible. All I saw was broken or half-lived relationships.
My parents divorced when I was five. My mother got remarried to a man she didn’t really love and had a horrible 40-year marriage. And my sister, who died at a young age, was married and divorced three times. Something screwy set us up for picking the wrong people.
It was my own thinking, my own refusal to dream the love I wanted into being, that has kept me from it.
Shifted that thinking and redirecting my internal compass has helped me tremendously.
I know that I can create what I want, I know I can find and experience the love that I dream. Click To Tweet
I didn’t get to this understanding by myself. It took work!
We all have dreams – dreams for love, for a career, for our bodies, for our finances, for our health, for “fill in the blank.” But often our beliefs, theories, and thinking get in our way of having full on happiness and living into our dreams.
Getting help from a coach has been one of the best things I have ever done for myself. Think of it as therapy with teeth! I encourage you to try it.
Wishing you health and happiness,
Mark Hyman, MD