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When Your Life Plan Goes Off The Rails

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When Your Life Plan Isn’t Working According to Plan…

Dr. Ho is NOT a medical doctor, licensed therapist, lawyer or a bevy of other things. Dr. Ho is a Holistic Life Coach who provides personal, spiritual and business development along with support through natural products such as herbs, essential oils, and CBD.

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All of us dream, hope and yearn for happiness, love, and success measured in our own way. Click To Tweet


What I have a seen is how we often stand in our own way by limiting ideas, beliefs and theories about life, the thoughts we get stuck on that keep us from the life and love we want.


I have kept myself from a very big dream because I didn’t fully own it and instead held onto excuses, or was stuck in unconscious beliefs of why it was not possible.


I know the power of dreaming, of believing in and creating my dreams.


In college, I knew I wanted to create healing in the world. I acutely felt the deep suffering of our human souls and the deep physical suffering of so many. I wanted to create more love, compassion, and healing in the world.


But I went to medical school and found my way through my own illness to a new way of understanding the wonder of the human body.


I learned from the inside out how we are connected to everything around us – the food we eat, our environment, how we grow and raise our food, the way we move, the rhythm and love in our lives. @markhymanmd Click To Tweet


In my struggle with chronic fatigue, I found a way out through the science of Functional Medicine. I have been honored to be part of transforming many lives and writing seven New York Times bestsellers designed to create more healing and love in the world. I dreamed that change into being. Without a doubt, I knew that  I had a mission, a calling to share this radical new medical paradigm. I believed it and saw it through fearlessly.


But there are other dreams that have not worked out so well for me.


I have two beautiful children and the blessing of extraordinary friends and community. But in the area of love, I had beliefs and behaviors that kept me from having the love that I wanted.


I recognized that maybe it was “me” after two marriages and relationships that didn’t work out. How I choose, what I believed,  and my behavior kept me from having the love that I wanted.


The truth was that I just didn’t believe in love- and that is why I never manifested it in my life.


I realized that my experience as a kid set me up not to trust or believe that true love was possible. All I saw was broken or half-lived relationships.


My parents divorced when I was five. My mother got remarried to a man she didn’t really love and had a horrible 40-year marriage. And my sister, who died at a young age, was married and divorced three times. Something screwy set us up for picking the wrong people.


It was my own thinking, my own refusal to dream the love I wanted into being, that has kept me from it.


Shifted that thinking and redirecting my internal compass has helped me tremendously.


I know that I can create what I want, I know I can find and experience the love that I dream. Click To Tweet


I didn’t get to this understanding by myself. It took work!


We all have dreams – dreams for love, for a career, for our bodies, for our finances, for our health, for “fill in the blank.” But often our beliefs, theories, and thinking get in our way of having full on happiness and living into our dreams.


Getting help from a coach has been one of the best things I have ever done for myself. Think of it as therapy with teeth! I encourage you to try it.


Wishing you health and happiness,
Mark Hyman, MD

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Naturally Yours,
Elise Ho
Ph.D., D.N. Psych.
Behavioral & Mental Health Specialist

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24 thoughts on “When Your Life Plan Goes Off The Rails”

  1. I believe we all find what we need when we need it and the trick is to recognize it’s what we need when we see it. I needed to see this today. Thank you kindly. Dropped by from #BloggersPitStop and off to share so others can find this too.
    Wishing you a wonder-filled weekend. 🙂

  2. Kathleen - Bloggers Lifestyle

    Elise and Dr. Mark. Thank you for sharing this encouraging post and giving people hope to live their dreams.

    The Blogger’s Pit Stop will feature this in the next Pit Stop.

  3. Visiting from #AFiremansWife. As I was getting an acupuncture treatment today the song from Mama Mia- “I Have a Dream” kept replaying in my head as a mantra. It’s important to keep reaching for dreams.

  4. You’re so right that the human body is wondrous, and we are fearfully and wonderfully made as complex humans, body, mind and spirit!!
    I’m so thankful that the God who created everything has intervened in my life and given me His dreams and goals for who He intends me to be, based on His Word. God’s ways are most certainly higher than mine, and while I may think I can pursue my own happiness, real lasting joy and contentment will only truly come as I pursue Him and His purposes and align my desires with His.

  5. We should always believe in our dreams and thank you for sharing your personal story. I’m stopping by from Blogger’s Pit Stop and found some Friday inspiration in your post. Have a lovely weekend.

  6. What a great post. Having a positive attitude helps me get through the hard times. Knowing that God is there for me if I just ask certainly helps! Thanks for sharing with SYC.

  7. It’s such a challenge to dream big and also to hold those dreams loosely. Sometimes God has other ideas in mind that would not have occurred to me, and it’s important for me to stay open to them.

  8. Helen aka Welsh Mum Writing

    Getting help in working through your thinking and ditching negative mindsets can be so helpful and liberating. I’ve worked with coaches and counsellors over the years. Ultimately, I choose my behaviour and my barriers. Change your perspective and achieve greatness, even if that is relishing the now and what you have. #TriumphantTales

  9. Thank you for sharing this, it is so good to recognise that we may not be where we want in life, but its about how we change it to get back on course!
    Thank you for sharing this with us at #TriumphantTales. I hope to see you back next week.

  10. If you realise your behaviour was the problem, you can change it. I think that’s ok. The marriages weren’t failures if that’s how you got the children. And if you were happy for a time. Glad the ME is under control. That’s a tough disease. I have a friend who is just recovering after 20 years. #Dreamteam

  11. We can limit our own dreams, can’t we! I find my encouragement from God and His Word, but I wasted too much of my life before turning to Him. I’m so glad He kept pursuing me.

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About The Author

Dr. Elise Ho

Dr. Elise Ho

Dr. Elise Ho is a Holistic Health & Life Coach with a special interest in emotional health, life alignment, and energy flow.

Elise will partner with you to align your mindset, your energy, your home and your career so that you can live your life's desire with freedom and love.

Elise offers 30 years of experience and multiple certifications and degrees including a Ph.D. in Natural Health and a doctoral degree in Naturopathic Psychology.