We all want to know the key to success, so let’s first start with the dictionary definition.
suc·cess – noun \sək-ˈses\
: the fact of getting or achieving wealth, respect, or fame
: the correct or desired result of an attempt
Personally, I like the second option better. I mean do not get me wrong, wealth is terrific, respect is incredibly important but fame…. well that one really depends on what your goal or desired result is. One thing that we all can agree on is that:
Success is something that we all want to achieve whether in our work life, our home life, our marriage or our exercise and eating habits.
But how can we be successful? What does it look like? What does it feel like? How will we know when we have achieved it?
Success is something different to everyone.
There is not one magic formula.
Success can include many things and it is an ever changing landscape. To an actress it may be being well known and respected on Broadway, but to a landscaper it may be a beautifully manicured lawn. A parent may feel successful when their children are well behaved, well adjusted and having fun. For (now President) Donald Trump it is a whole different story, the man even named a cologne, “Success“.
To achieve success you must work hard, you must be honest with yourself and you also must work hard and be honest with yourself.
Did you catch that?
I know that I said it twice. This was done because it bears repeating. In order to become a successful person, whether in your work life, your married life, or your family life, many things are required.
Success requires showing up.
Mark Zuckerberg invited 5 people to his college dorm room to discuss an idea that he had, but only two showed up. Those two boys who showed up are now multi-millionaires.
Success takes picking yourself back up after every failure and every disappointment.
If you truly want to be successful, when something has not worked out quite the way you wanted you must brush yourself off, put on your big girl panties and try again. Perseverance is key.
Success is only one step beyond failure.
To turn a failure into a success, you need to keep working at your pursuit and continually reevaluate what exactly failed AND why. Consider how you can change the disaster into a victory.
How can you turn the key to success and unlock the door?
Perhaps your original idea needs to be adjusted slightly. You may need a bit of outside help for it to grow and to flourish. Perhaps a part of your idea needs to be left behind so you can achieve your goal. To determine if this is the case, you should also look at the other side of the coin.
Namely, “What worked?”
Look closely at the successful parts of your idea. I understand you may be disappointed that everything did not turn out exactly as you had seen it in your mind’s eye, but that does not mean you are a failure.
Push past the disappointments and you will find what you are looking for.
Success is waiting for you!
Please share your stories of success and those ideas that fell short. I also love success quotes and have shared a few of my favorites below. I would love it if you did the same.
Until next time… Elise
originally published October 21, 2013 in Inspiring Women Magazine