The reality is that parents should be more concerned about kids that do not turn a deaf ear.

The reason for this is that children that seem to be turning a deaf ear are really just going through a “natural and necessary progression to adulthood.” As well, they usually seem to be turning a deaf ear but are actually listening on at least some level.

In Dr. Gray’s bestselling book, Children Are from Heaven: Positive Parenting Skills for Raising Cooperative, Confident, and Compassionate Children he points out that “Up until 13 years old, children do not have the capacity to form their own opinions, and they depend on their parents to decipher all information for them.”

Once they reach the important teen years they have a shift in thinking which usually results in the shift from thinking that Mom and Dad know everything to the realization that they do not.

Now the teen will attempt to exercise their independence and will step towards maturity.  If the child is being respectful, and safe, then his behavior should be encouraged not discouraged.

This is the time for the parent to adjust to the teen’s new way of thinking and to remember not to be combative.

If you allow your child a sense of independence than life does not have to be a battle.

Do remember though to watch for their safety above all else.

We, as parents, do sometimes have to pick our battles but it is important to pick carefully. If it is a small matter then treat it as such.

Foster a strong relationship in which you and your teen speak of many topics.

Enjoy each other’s company and rebellion may not be all that big of a deal.

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originally published August 1, 2018