The Decisions We Make.
Identifying our mistakes, and then learning from them, is one of the most effective ways for us to grow as individuals.
Mistakes are often viewed in a negative light, but they present huge opportunities for self-improvement.
In my life, I have made many life-altering decisions from choosing to graduate from high school at 15 years old, going on to University, becoming a wife and later a mom, to making various career choices along the way.
Even now, I am still making these types of decisions… I mean seriously, I really am!
I have chosen to further my education and earn more certifications than any person could possibly need and to bring my education even further by earning two doctoral degrees (Ph.D. Natural Medicine/Naturopathic Psychology and Doctor of Naturopathy).
I made this decision while in my 40′s!
The answer for me was simple, to be accepted into these programs, to be able to study that which I find so fascinating and to earn these advanced degrees (you know, because one was not enough) absolutely makes my heart sing!
I love when my heart sings!
Of course, with the simple truth also came some complicated questions.
I am a writer and even when beginning my advanced studies already had a growing practice and so I worried, “Can I do both?”
I am a mother, a mother who made the decision many years ago to be a SAHM. I mean, granted, I did morph into a WAHM and eventually a mom who worked outside the home.
However, this was bringing things to a whole new level.
While the kids were older (13, 15, 17 at the time) and quite self-sufficient, I wondered if that really meant that they needed me any less.
I am a wife and in that, I asked myself, “Is he really good with all of this?”
He states that we will work everything out and that we can handle it.
But then I took a step back and thought about The Decisions We Make.
I asked myself some important questions.
- Do I deserve to be my own person?
- Do I deserve to nourish that which excites me?
- Why do we, as women, tend to push our needs aside?
- Can my family handle this change?
Well, this whole decision was one made years ago… now my kids are 19, 21 and 23. So let me fill you in…
Were there some difficulties? Absolutely!
Has it been terrific? Yes, indeed.
Everyone has handled it.
The kids came to learn how I managed to graduate from high school at 15 and earn my first degree by age 17.
We have studied together and waited for test grades together.
My husband and my kids have stepped up and worked “it out.”
Perhaps they have not done so in the exact way that I would have, but they have. Giving up some control was an important part of the process.
I did not allow my fears to hold me back.
Through the years I have followed The Great Spirit inside of me to make decisions, easy and hard.
She has guided me well but every decision was not correct.
In some of these decisions I had to dig deep and look for the lesson but yet it was still not a mistake.
I love the decisions that were spot on even more, but any decision which propels you forward, whether from immediate success or learning a lesson, is always a positive.
Do you agree?
Please let me know in the comments below.
I would also love to learn about the decisions that you have faced or are facing.
Originally published September 9, 2014