Sex Doesn’t have To Be An Awkward Conversation

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The Awkward Conversation That Shouldn’t Be!


When you meet someone new, it’s exciting and fun and you have so much to look forward to together. If there is one thing that you might be looking forward to is the bedroom possibilities. Sex is a big way to communicate with someone else,. If you’re in a romantic relationship at some point sex will be a factor.  With this in mind, be sure that you are fully respectful of your partner’s wishes.


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The thing is, plenty of couples find the whole sex conversation an awkward one to have.

A great rule to live by in life: if you are able to get naked and have sex with someone, you should be able to talk to them too.

Conversation is a must before having sex with someone new, and the conversation about STDs should not be an awkward one to have. Not talking about it could have worse consequences than a little embarrassment can have. You can both head to Core Medical Group to get tested to know that you are both in the clear before you choose to jump into bed. Before you head that way, though, you should consider these points to help you to broach that awkward conversation that you need to have (and make it less awkward along the way). 


  1. Get the facts. Every single time you have sex with a new partner, you should make sure that you are both STD tested. People fear this chat because of the stigma attached to an STD, but it’s smart to have this chat because it proves that you care about your partner and their health. It also shows that you trust each other enough to have this conversation in the first place. Knowing all about STDs will help you to spot any of the signs if you have one.
  2. Plan the conversation. Talking about sexually transmitted diseases isn’t always straightforward, so make sure that you plan this conversation well. It should be in a place you are both comfortable and you can even jot down a few points and practice it. Asking your potential partner to have an STD test is not an insult: it shows that you want to trust them with your body and your health. Pretty romantic, that!
  3. Choose your moment. This is not a conversation to bring up in the heat of the moment when you’re both turned on and ready to go to bed. This conversation should happen with clear heads and when lust isn’t fuzzing your brain. Talking about your sexual histories is for a clothes-on, heads straight moment. 
  4. Agree to use contraception. Both of you have to be on board with contraception even when you are both safe from STDs. If you are on the Pill or you have the implant, you should still double up with condoms. There are plenty of condom comebacks that you can use if they insist on not using them, and this is the moment to lay down your boundaries. 


With the right timing, you can have a conversation that really does matter, You can then go forward with your sexual relationship with confidence and trust.


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Naturally Yours,
Elise Ho
Ph.D., D.N. Psych.
Behavioral & Mental Health Specialist

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Dr. Elise Ho

Dr. Elise Ho

Dr. Elise Ho is a Holistic Health & Life Coach with a special interest in emotional health, life alignment, and energy flow.

Elise will partner with you to align your mindset, your energy, your home and your career so that you can live your life's desire with freedom and love.

Elise offers 30 years of experience and multiple certifications and degrees including a Ph.D. in Natural Health and a doctoral degree in Naturopathic Psychology.